…seemed like a good title. After all, like the television program, we are checking in on lost personalities. In our case, we are doing fine. Life has been hectic, as it so often is with kids, work, holidays, family visits, Summer doings, etc… Taking breaks like this, though, is pretty common for NW and me. It doesn’t mean that we aren’t having sex, even fetish-y. It just means that we were not concentrated on one thing that binds it all together, pun, pun.
For now, though, let me give just a quick update. Today is day eighteen of my denial. There have, obviously, been no full orgasms and, for once, no ruined orgasms. That is in part because we have moved along with a different approach.
As with all of our denial play, it started with me. It starts with me because, if I am not in the right frame of mind for it, it isn’t going to work. And having started with me, I get to establish the first set of guidelines. The first guideline involves duration. Ultimately, NW will get to decide when my next orgasm is, full and/or ruined. When I started this stint, however, I a) started it without NW’s knowledge and b) had a minimum duration decided upon, even though it was not actually set. I did not inform NW that this was starting because I needed to go through a few days to make sure that I was up to the task. Sometimes I want to do it, but life conspires to make it not psychologically fun. Better to test the waters and then let her know that the game is on and she is in control…and she is always ready.
The minimum duration is a little different. There are a couple of fitness goals that I have set for myself. No, they do not involve weight loss (although they probably should). I set my minimum duration at achieving those goals. So, until I reach them…no orgasm! NW knows this and has agreed to it. Once those goals are achieved, it all becomes her decision. The only downside is that these goals are rather lofty. They might take some time. Hopefully I am up to the task.
The second, and really only other, guideline is how we proceed with our play. For the first two weeks I made sure to keep a very strict hold on how and how much stimulation NW gave me. This was not done to control NW, but to make sure we did not have an accidental ruined and to set the pace. The first weekend, when I was four and five days in, I did not let NW touch me at all. I serviced her, but she did nothing to my cock and balls. The second weekend, days eleven and twelve, NW was allowed to service me, but only my balls. She did lick and suck them, but it mainly consisted of cbt…squeezing, slapping, punching (not too hard), pulling, etc… She has not played with me during the weeks, only on weekends.
This weekend, it has been much the same. I serviced her last night and this morning. She has devoted 98% of her attention to my balls. The only stimulation to the shaft was a couple of tight squeezes and quick sucking of my precum from the tip.
This has really worked in helping us avoid unintentional ruined orgasms and helped keep the intensity level in check. When we are full on, constant teasing, we tend to spend way too much time thinking about and involved in sex. Even so, I have turned the reins over and NW is now free to do whatever she wants to me. She still seems content to focus on my balls,however. That is actually kind of cool. It keeps intensity in check, lets us both play and I have found that I can reach orgasm just from having my balls smacked around. (No, I have not actually reached orgasm this go around.) Yes, I have come from cbt in the past. In almost every case, though, I have been stroked up and edged before we got to cbt. These past two weekends, there has been no foreplay. It goes straight from me pleasing her to her hurting my balls. And she is edging me, time and again, by doing this. I am really interested to see how this develops, if she continues to deny notable stimulation to my shaft.
Well, that is where we are right now. Sorry there was nothing too tantalizing. It is fun nonetheless.